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How to Fall Deliriously in Love With Writing (Again)

How to Fall Deliriously in Love With Writing (Again)

Pour yourself a cup of steaming coffee (or tea) and make it strong.

Pull up a chair (one of those cozy ones that you can really sink into).

Take a seat. Get comfortable.

It’s story time.

This story is about me (and I want you to read it even though all of the other blogging gurus have told me not to write about myself).

This story is a heartbreaker. It’s about my breakup with one of the great loves of my life.

(But, like any great love story, it ends with a make out session in the rain. Well…kind of.)

Ready? Here we go.

(Imagine the music that plays before a flashback in one of those old corny shows like Saved By The Bell. Yeah, you’ve got it.)

In December of 2014, I decided to start this blog.

I wanted to write again, because writing has always sustained me, ever since I was a hopeless romantic in middle school. I would write love stories every night in which I was the focus of not only one, but two boys’ affections. (During the day, I was a pimply 13 year old with a Jewfro and braces.)

When I first started this blog, I was writing every single day.

And I looooved it. I woke up ready to put my fingers to the keys of my keyboard. I often didn’t even know what I would write about. I just wanted it. I hungered for my own words.

Then I cut down to 5 times a week. I still craved writing, but I figured I needed to live my life, too.

After a few weeks of this, it went down to 3 times a week. Then twice. Then once.

And…for the past few months, I’ve only been writing every other week. Sometimes, not even that much.

Writing and I are officially on the rocks.

It’s not that I don’t still love her. (Because writing is obviously a woman.)

It’s that I’ve put all of these expectations, all of these restrictions, on my relationship with writing.

I can’t write a blog post if I can’t share it on all of my group boards on Pinterest.

I can’t write a blog post if it doesn’t speak directly to my target audience.

I can’t write a blog post if the same topic has been written before.

I can’t write a blog post if it doesn’t fit into a nicely bulleted list, with subheadings and click to tweets.

And because of my self-imposed restrictions, I don’t love writing anymore.

Here’s how I used to write:

I would set a timer. I would write a sentence to start me off. And then I would GO. I wrote the truest, scariest, most delicious things that came from the most hidden layer of myself.

I wrote about the long forgotten moments of my life, moments that feel like treasures. Not like gold, but like treasures that you find in a yard sale, or in your grandmother’s basement. The one of a kind moments that forever changed me. That rocked my world.

I used to write nakedly, unabashedly. All of the broken parts of myself were laid bare, glittering as they were brought into the light.

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In this crazy online world, I’ve stopped writing like that.

My words have stopped feeling like a lifeline and started feeling like handcuffs.

It’s hard to be honest when you want people to like you.

It’s hard to be vulnerable when you’re already wondering how many times your post is going to be shared.

It’s hard to keep writing when you’ve stripped away all of the beauty and the mystery of writing.

Yes, writing is a tool for connecting and building an audience. An incredibly powerful one.

But it’s also a vehicle for connecting to yourself.

I tell other women their voices are powerful.

I help them celebrate what is unique and vibrant about them, the things that they don’t think to celebrate, because they take them for granted.

And part of why I do that is that I have the same struggle. I struggle to own my own power, to use my own voice in a way that’s real and true and that feels good.

I want this post to be a turning point.

The start of using my voice in the most audacious way possible: honestly and without fear.

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This post is the beginning of me and writing getting back together.

Me and writing, sitting in a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G.

(You know, like the amazing kiss at the end of the movie that you want to watch over and over.)

Things are about to get steamy.

Stay tuned.

How to Write for Your Audience Without Losing Your Voice

How to Write for Your Audience Without Losing Your Voice

How do you stay authentic, but also write for your audience?

How do you write what really matters to you, but also stick to a specific focus with your blog?

How do you tell your stories, while still making your blog useful to your readers?

Blogging can sometimes feel like a balancing act, with no clear answers to the questions above.

Last night in our Mastermind call for members of Have Your Cupcake, the sweet blogging membership site I run, one of the new members said that she felt lost. I connected with this, because I recently wrote a post about my experience of losing my blogging voice and then finding it again.

When we dug a little deeper, it came out that she wanted to change what she was writing about, but she was afraid that she would lose her current audience members.

As we talked through it, many of us on the call had different suggestions for her on how to reclaim her voice, despite her fears of losing her audience. Here’s some of what we came up with.

1. Write for readers who “get” you.

Do you remember middle school? It was probably the worst 3 years of my life. For years after, whenever I felt depressed, I would cheer myself up by thinking, Well, at least I’m not in middle school anymore.

Part of why middle school sucked so much was because I was so concerned with being popular. I really wanted the popular kids to like me, to understand me, to notice me. But, unfortunately, they preferred to torture me instead.

For high school, I transferred to an arts school, filled with quirky people like me, and suddenly I felt okay being myself.

When you write your blog posts, don’t worry about writing for people who don’t “get” you.

Blogging often feels like a popularity contest. You want everyone to love you and think you are amazing. But you can’t make everyone like you.

And if you try, if you give up your quirky, authentic voice in the pursuit of popularity, you’ll just end up being boring (and miserable).

Instead, write for your best friend. Write for your people. Trust that the people who connect with you and your message will find you. Forget about everyone else.

2. Talk to your readers.

This month in Have Your Cupcake, our focus is on learning about our readers so that we know how to best serve them.

If you don’t talk to your readers, you may be making lots of assumptions about them that aren’t true. You may think that they want you to write in a certain way, or about certain things, when really, they couldn’t care less about those things.

When you talk to your readers, and have real, true dialogue with them, you find out that they’re just humans like you, and that they want you to be real, and different, and yourself.

So get out there. Survey your readers. Ask them out for coffee (or for a Skype date where you both drink coffee in your own homes). Talking to your readers changes them from numbers in Google Analytics to actual people.

When you have conversations and learn what people really care about, you’ll find all sorts of things to write about that matter to you as well.

3. Realize that no matter where you are on your journey, you can still teach and inspire people.

In this crazy blogging world, it’s easy to feel like you need to be an expert in order to help people.

But the irony is, the more of an expert you become, the harder it is to remember what it was like to be a beginner. Often, beginners need to learn from someone who is just a few steps ahead of them, who still remembers what it was like to be brand new.

I believe that part of being real, part of owning your voice, is being completely honest about where you stand. And no matter where that is, it’s a perfect place to write from.

4. Don’t try to “hold on” to your current readers.

As bloggers, we get so caught up in looking at our numbers. Traffic stats, email subscribers, social followers, etc. And we want those numbers to keep going up and up.

So it’s easy to feel like we need to hold on to each and every reader we already have.

But here’s the thing: The readers who are truly going to connect with you and your writing, the readers whose lives will be touched by your blog, are going to stick around no matter what.

And the readers who aren’t, the readers who are meant to read a few of your posts and move on, will move on no matter what.

When I was in college, I had a HUGE crush on my friend Nik. I wanted him to be with me SO badly. So much so that I felt trapped in my own desire. I didn’t know what I could do to make him want to be with me, and it was driving me crazy.

Then my mom’s friend Nora gave me advice I’ve never forgotten. She said, If he’s meant to be with you, he will be. If he’s not, no matter what you do, he won’t be. So just let go and see what happens.

I did let go. And we never got together. But I didn’t feel quite as miserable anymore. And I was able to open myself up to other people.

So…it’s the same with your blog. Don’t feel like you need to hold on to your readers. Because, to be completely honest with you, they’re not yours to hold on to, anyway.

And, when you focus on writing what’s true for you, instead of trying to please your readers, you clear a path for new readers to find you, as well.

5. See yourself, and your voice, as sacred.

You can’t hold on to your readers. But what you can nurture, and feed, and guard, is your powerful and unique voice.

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When you focus inward and see your voice as a precious thing, you will feel much better, and your writing will become even more dynamic and engaging.

You can’t control what others think of you, but you can control what you think of yourself. So say nice things to yourself. Take time to notice and appreciate yourself. Write from a place of personal power.

When you do that, your readers will notice. And the ones that love you already will love you even more.

6. Let your writing guide you where you need to go.

One of the things I love most about writing is that it teaches me what I need to learn. It gives me the courage to do things I never would do otherwise.

In the beginning of 2015, I barely had a blog. Now I’ve built a Facebook community of 2600+ incredible bloggers, I’ve created a membership site where I get to teach and learn from women I truly respect, and I feel happier and more fulfilled than I have in years.

Why? Because I let the writing light my path. As I wrote what was true for me, I gathered others who felt the same. And then they taught me where I needed to go next.

When you trust your voice, you are giving your writing permission to take you on a journey. And even though you don’t know where you’ll stop along the way, as long as you are true to yourself, your path will take you to incredible places, and your soul-mate readers WILL find you and want to walk with you.

How to Write for your Audience Without Losing Your Voice

The bottom line is this:

You started blogging because you had something important to say. And the only one with your voice, and your story, and your journey, is you. So if you’re not going to write your story in your voice, no one else will.

Be brave. Let go of everything other than what you can control – writing what’s true for you. When you do that, magic happens.

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The One Resource You Need to Claim Your Writer’s Voice

The One Resource You Need to Claim Your Writer's Voice

Listen to me read this 3 minute post.

When I was 20, I shaved my head.

I was in India, and I didn’t tell anyone back home about it.

My parents only realized what I had done when they were walking toward me in the airport. From afar, they both thought I was just wearing it up in a ponytail. But then as they got closer, I saw their eyes widen.

For weeks, I would catch them staring at me in concern.

A family friend asked me why I shaved my head.

I explained that I was reclaiming my natural hair. That I had dyed and straightened the real me away so I wanted to get back to how my hair should really look.

He said, I liked it longer. It softens your features.

Not the right answer.

But then, I saw my grandma. She was 91 at the time, and it was one of the last times I ever saw her before she died.

She took one look at me and said, I love your hair this way. I can see your face better.

Even though no one else got why I cut my hair, Grandma intuitively did.

She got me.

And even though my parents, their friends, and most of the people I knew didn’t like my new ‘do, it was an important, even essential step in reclaiming my unique self, my true voice.

Grandpa and Grandma, me and my sister, Rachel. (I'm wearing the fashionable glasses.)

Grandpa and Grandma, me and my sister, Rachel. (I’m wearing the fashionable glasses.)

You know a writer has found her voice when she is willing to be completely honest. To take risks. To do things even when most people think they’re weird.

Many people say that it takes a long time writing to find your writer’s voice.

And for lots of bloggers, it does.

I think it takes them a lot of time to realize that it’s okay to be themselves without filters, and without fear.

It takes a lot of time for them to claim their incredible, unique, terrifying voices.

Why does it take so much time?

Mainly because of fear. The fear that we won’t be accepted. The fear that some people will read what we have to say, and they’ll think I don’t get this.

But here’s the thing: the people that do get it will be transformed by your courage.

They’ll sit up and take notice and think, Wow. I never knew there was someone out there that could speak to me so clearly.

If you stay where it’s safe, in the vanilla zone (you know, everyone is fine with vanilla, but it’s rarely anyone’s favorite), no one will look at you like you’re crazy. But no one will be able to see your face better, either.

Here’s how to do the equivalent of shaving your head in your blog:

Set a timer. Write for 15 minutes straight. It doesn’t matter what you write about, just that you don’t stop for the entire 15 minutes.

Don’t stop writing, and dive straight into everything you want to avoid.

If something comes up and you start to shy away, write about that.

You don’t even have to publish what you write. But the more you write into your fear, the closer you’ll be to uncovering what’s brilliant, and different, and truly remarkable about you.

Do it. I want to see your face better.

Nail These 4 Core Elements for a Powerful Blog Voice

Nail these 4 core elements for a powerful blog voicePeople always say, You have to have a unique voice for your blog to be successful. And you have to blog A LOT to figure that voice out.

Which is good advice.

But what if you want to define your blogging voice now? Can it be done? I think it can, by nailing these 4 core elements.

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1. Think of 3-5 adjectives you want people to associate with your blog.

Do you want people to see you as witty? Crass? Friendly? Nerdy?

Need help figuring it out? Here’s a chart of personality adjectives  from FoxHugh.com. (Click to enlarge.)

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For my own blogging voice, I want people to associate me with the adjectives warm, friendly, honest, and creative.

Need help clarifying this idea? Here are 2 examples.

Rebecca Tracey and Leonie Dawson are 2 amazing entrepreneurs, and they both have very distinctive brand and blog voices.

Rebecca’s website is The Uncaged Life.

She says she wants to “Become your new biz BFF”, and helps “Big thinkers who want to have a threesome with clarity, confidence, and action.”

When I look at her site and her blog, the adjectives that come to my mind are funny, crass, honest, down to earth and successful.

Leonie’s website is Leonie Dawson.

She calls her tribe “Love” and “Gorgeous Goddesses.”

She writes, “I’m absoloodely deeeeeelighted to meet you!” She helps “women wanting to live inspired, creative, prosperous lives and businesses.”

The adjectives that she embodies are friendly, creative, loving, and whimsical.

Once you’ve identified your adjectives, you can write them down and look at them before and after you write each blog post. Does that post reflect those adjectives? If not, you might want to tweak it a bit.

2. Ask yourself, If my blog was a physical place, where would I want it to be?

Would your blog be a serene beach, where people can clear their minds and have a place to appreciate life? Or would it be a hotel conference room during a conference, where lots of big ideas are shared and discussed?

Let’s return to the examples of Rebecca and Leonie.

When I visit Rebecca’s site, I feel like I’m at a happy hour in a funky dive bar with friends. Her photos feature her outside, in front of street art, sitting down with her laptop on her lap. On her “About” graphic, it says, “I’m pretty awesome.” All of this reinforces the feeling of having fun and being in a relaxed, casual environment.

Leonie’s site has a totally different feel. It’s filled with watercolor graphics. The fonts look like handwriting.

Here’s a bit from her About page:

I have a big, beautiful dream, dearest.

Imagine a destiny where you and me are meant to change the world.

Imagine we share our gifts with the world.

Being on her site feels like preparing for an awesome journey while sitting on the porch with a friend, sipping a cup of chai.

I want my readers to feel like they are having a great cup of coffee at a local coffee shop. Comfortable, yet excited and inspired at the same time.

Now it’s your turn. Here’s what I recommend:

Go on Pinterest, and look at boards of fabulous places. Create a pinboard of how you want people to feel when they read your blog. Then go back and revisit those places. Do any of them feel right?

Now, look at that image before and after you write your post.

BONUS: If you can create your own graphics, or get a professional to do them for you, that reflect the place you’ve chosen, it will give your blog that much more of a distinct voice.

3. Figure out what type of words you want to use.

What is the tone of your blog? Is it informal? Vulgar? Flowery? You can convey this tone by intentionally using certain words.

Rebecca uses words like dick, killing it, and shut up. These aren’t quite vulgar, but they are very slang-y. Your grandma may not approve (I guess it depends on the type of grandma you have), but if you’re young; if you’re the type of person who would go to funky dive bars, you’ll feel right at home on Rebecca’s site.

Leonie, on the other hand, uses words like incredible, shining, and gigglesnorter. Her tone is whimsical yet inspiring, and her use of specific words creates that effect.

Here’s how you can do this without sounding fake:

Pay attention to your real-life conversations. Notice which words you use frequently. Then write them down. Intentionally incorporate some of them into your next blog post.

4. Look at your blog’s adjectives, place, and words, and figure out who would enjoy reading your blog.

To recap, you’ve decided:

  • Your blog adjectives
  • Your blog place
  • Your commonly used words

Now, can you picture someone who would want to read your blog?

Back to Rebecca and Leonie…

Rebecca’s adjectives: funny, crass, honest, down to earth and successful

Rebecca’s place: a funky dive bar

Rebecca’s words: dick, killing it, and shut up

Who would want to read her blog?

Probably millennials who want to start their own businesses. People who have a good sense of humor and want to take action now. Entrepreneurs who want a mentor that is no-nonsense and ready to get her hands dirty.

Leonie’s adjectives: friendly, creative, loving, and whimsical

Leonie’s place: preparing for an awesome journey while sitting on the porch with a friend, sipping a cup of chai

Leonie’s words: incredible, shining, and gigglesnorter

Who would want to read her blog?

Women of all ages who want to be inspired. These women have an artsy, spiritual side but are also planners and doers. They’re creatives and entrepreneurs who want a mentor who will make them feel special and taken care of.

Now, it’s your turn.

Look at your adjectives, place, and words. Who would want to read your blog? Write a few sentences about them.

That’s your audience. If you can choose one person who fits into that audience, and write for her specifically, it will make your blog voice even stronger.

Adjectives. Place. Words. Audience. Get those building blocks in place and you’ll be on your way to a kick-ass blog voice!

 

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10 Questions That Will Help You Unearth Your Unique Voice

10 questions that will help you unearth your unique writer's voice

How do you know if your writing is moving you toward unearthing your unique writer’s voice?

It isn’t easy.

I don’t have a microwave-ready solution.

But I can provide a few questions for you to ask yourself when you struggle with how deep and real to go.

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1. Does this writing feel true to me?

When your writing is true, you can feel it in your body. Really.

You’ll know it when you’re writing something true and real, versus something that is just for the sake of getting another post done.

If you are really dedicated to unearthing your unique voice, trash anything untrue.

2. Does this writing matter to me?

Would you be proud to share your post with your friends and family?

Do you have the urge to read it again and again?

If so, it matters to you.

This doesn’t mean it has to be perfect, or even great writing.

It just means that you care about it.

3. Am I comfortable with people reading this whom I don’t know?

Here’s the tricky part.

Sometimes you write something real and gritty and important.

But it’s too personal. It’s TMI.

Growing your writer’s voice does mean that you go deep inside, but it doesn’t mean that you have to share everything you find.

Your voice is crafted by you. So decide what you actually want people to see.

4. If my best friend read this, would she think, that is so [YOUR NAME]?

Your voice is unique to you.

No one has your story, or your personality, other than you. (Duh…)

Have you ever seen an article of clothing, and immediately been certain that a particular friend would love it?

That’s how your blog posts should be – an obvious fit for your blog wardrobe.

5. Did I let myself “go there” with this?

Real writing feels a little like being naked.

You don’t want to share TMI, but at the same time, you want to go where you’re afraid to go.

Truly powerful writing comes from courageous exploration.

Were you courageous in your writing? If not, can you go deeper?

6. Was I fully present while writing this post?

Have you ever sat down to write, but then instead of focusing, you spent a lot of time doing other things – checking Facebook, answering emails, talking to your dog, etc?

That’s probably a sign that you either aren’t invested in the piece, or that you’re avoiding something you need to write.

For a post to be infused with your voice, you need to be completely “there” while writing it.

7. How much “people pleasing” did I do in this post?

There is a shitload of information out there on creating shareable content.

You can look up how many words your headline should be. You can research keywords to make sure that people are searching for what you’re writing about.

And it’s good to know all of that information.

But if your post is mainly based on that research, and not on what’s true for you, it’s probably not going to cultivate your voice.

8. Did I try too hard in this post?

If you’ve ever been to a social gathering, you’ve met people that are trying way too hard.

People that laugh too loudly, talk about themselves too much, and make it awkwardly obvious they aren’t there to be genuine, but rather, to impress others.

Don’t be that person.

If your post feels like you’re trying to hard – to impress, to fit in, to get customers – take a step back.

Find a thread of honesty in there, and rewrite.

9. Did I let go of my internal editor in this post?

What keeps us from being real in our writing is that internal editor.

The voice that says, Wow, this sucks. Do you really think anyone will want to read this? I can’t believe you’re sharing this with people.

Sound familiar?

Cultivating your voice means silencing that editor. It means slicing through the painful inner dialogue.

One way of doing this in the beginning is to force yourself to keep writing for a certain period of time. No matter what, keep going.

You can go back and edit later.

10. Is this post tribe-worthy?

Tribe-worthy content seethes with energy and honesty.

It encourages people to gather around you because you are writing what needs to be written.

Tribes form because their leaders shine a flashlight on the path ahead.

And because they believe in the their leaders’ stories.

Would you follow the person that wrote your post?

Define Your Online Voice (Free Course)

Take my scrumptious 5 day course on how to define your blog voice.  You’ll learn how to think about your blog, and your voice, in a whole new way. Just enter your name and email address and you’ll get the course delivered to your inbox. It’s only free for a limited time.

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How to find your writer’s voice: 20 writers weigh in (+ an awesome infographic)

How to find your writer's voice- 20 writers weigh in

Your writer’s voice can sometimes feel like this elusive, nebulous thing.

Many writers say that  you don’t know when you’ll find it, but when you do, it’s like love at first sight – you just just know.

I believe you can cultivate your writer’s voice, and that it’s in you right now – you just have to tap in.

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I went on a search for inspiring quotes on writer’s voice. Quotes that I hope you’ll keep nearby when you write, to keep you focused on staying real, vulnerable, and true to yourself. And I made this awesome graphic so that you’ll have something pretty to look at.

Voice infographic

 

 

 

Want to read the full posts? Check out all of the links below. (The titles are links)

Chuck Wendig from terrible minds

Voice is not just the result of a single sentence or paragraph or page. It’s not even the sum total of a whole story. It’s all your work laid out across the table like the bones and fossils of an unidentified carcass.

Joshua Fields Milburn of the Minimalists

The shattered rules lying on my cuttingroom floor have shaped my writing voice more than anything else.

Theo Pauline Nestor on the Huffington Post

Head straight into all that is particular and quirky about you.

Steven Pressfield

What voice does the material want? Find that. You the writer are not there to impose “your” voice on the material. Your job is to surrender to the material–and allow it to tell you what voice it wants in order to tell itself.

Thaisa Frank & Dorothy Wall in Finding Your Writer’s Voice

Most writers struggle to unearth voice – not only because one’s own voice is simply too familiar, but also because to speak from your voice means confronting your world, your dreams, and your entire life raw and unsoftened by explanations.

James Scott Bell

When an author is joyous in his telling, it pulses through the words.

Joanne Fedler

Sometimes by reading the way others write, we feel an echo in ourselves, or the flash of a lighthouse bringing us closer to our own voice.

Suddenly Jamie

The true voice of a writer is the nameless fire that burns inside, turning up the heat, licking at mind and heart until it becomes unbearable to wait even a single moment longer before putting pen to paper or fingertips to keyboard.

Dave Robison

Every breathing moment – awake or asleep – has layered depth and breadth and scope to Your Voice. It rumbles like grinding continents, burns like lightning, and whispers like a child on Santa’s knee. It’s authentic and powerful and it’s yours.

Gwen Moss

I believe the beauty of our writing is found in our striking uniqueness; in the lines of our face, the turns and twists of our lives, and from the real-life characters we’ve met.

April Erwin

Finding your voice is a process, a journey to the center of you. You have a unique voice; one God gave only to you. It’s time to dig a little deeper and set it free.

Robin LaFevers

So finding our voice is about having the strength and courage to proclaim that what we have to say matters, that what we feel is relevant, that what fascinates us is worthy of fascination.

Henri Junttila

All you can do right now is to express the voice you have. Do not wait for a-ha moments and big discoveries, because they may never come.

Natalie Goldberg

If you are not afraid of the voices inside you, you will not fear the critics outside you.

Louis Menand

What writers hear when they are trying to write is something more like singing than like speaking. Inside your head, you’re yakking away to yourself all the time. Getting that voice down on paper is a depressing experience. When you write, you’re trying to transpose what you’re thinking into something that is less like an annoying drone and more like a piece of music.

Leo Babuta

My writing voice is really the voice in my head. It’s not how I talk aloud, but how I talk to myself, in the noisy cavern of my skull. I listen to myself talk, inside, and that’s the voice I try to get down in writing.

Holly Lisle

Voice is born from a lot of words and a lot of work — but not just any words or any work will do. You have to bleed a little. You have to shiver a little. You have to love a lot.

Jeff Bullas

Accepting that you are not perfect but a product of a life journey can empower you to realise, write and reveal the naked you. People will find a voice that is transparent and full of bumps, scrapes and scratches with a rich voice tapestry much more interesting than a mass produced sound of blandness.

Shirley Kawa-Jump

When you find your authentic voice, it’s like stepping into a comfortable pair of shoes. The rhythm and pacing of your words feel right, as if they’re meant just for you.

Len Cristobal

French artist Henri Matisse once said that “creativity takes courage.” For us writers, it’s the courage to believe in our ways with words and the world, in our story, in our own unique voice.

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