How to write your way out of the chokehold of shoulds

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Two of the most damaging words in the English language are “I should.” I should be able to… I should be more like… I should be focusing on… I should feel… I should. I should. I should. All of the shoulds are so loud at…

How to Embrace the Messy Joy of Starting Over

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I remember the first few weeks of working for myself. I was like a blind woman, wandering around, trying random things. I put a profile up on a tutoring site, and the first time someone hired me to tutor her felt like a dream. Wow, I thought.…

When your brain gets in the way, write about blackberries

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Today, I am draped in an orange and purple blanket from India. I lugged it back with me in a green and black backpack on overnight bus rides, through the streets of Shimla and Dehli, and finally home. This blanket cloaks me in memory -…

The Naked Truth About Being a Writer

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I’m a freelance writer, which means I get paid to wake up and write everyday. I write in my dining room, sipping a glass of cold brew coffee over ice, my goldendoodle Kaia laying under my chair. I often wake up at 9AM and it’s okay,…

How to Meet Your Inner Council of Wise Women

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Sitting down to write this post, I took a picture I drew last year, of Maya, my backpacker, free-spirit self, and put it on the table next to me. See, I’ve built up this inner library of the way things “should” be done on my blog. …

Finding the Intersection of My Way and the "Right" Way

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When blogging first came out, I didn’t get it.  “Why would someone want to read about my life?” I wondered. Even when I was living in Israel or traveling in Central America, I just wasn’t convinced that my experiences meant enough…

How to Escape the Trap of the Niche and Embrace Your Full Self

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What if, instead of niching down, like all of the marketing experts tell you to, you began with exploring who you are? What if you started your business on a foundation of self love? What if you gathered all of your unique and strange parts…

The Delicious Freedom of Not Knowing

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I burned my business to the ground last month. I'm freelance writing these days. I love it. Not because it's my life purpose. Not because it's what I've always been searching for. I love it because it's fun, I'm good at it, and I'm…

How to Trust Yourself More as a Blogger

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In order to create a blog you love, you must trust yourself. In creating blog posts and in growing an audience, you step into the unknown. And it’s a little bit scary to put yourself and your voice out there. You might think… What…

How to Stop Listening to Blogging Gurus and Stand Out Online

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To become a successful business owner or blogger, you must know how to stand out online. But here’s the real, painful irony: in pursuit of writing a popular blog or getting clients, so many of us (including me) get caught up in trying to…
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8 Reasons Writer's Block is Kicking Your Butt (and how to defeat it)

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I am a writer. It’s a core part of my identity. But lately, I've been struggling with writer's block. And today when I woke up, I knew. I knew that I needed to jump back into it. I was kick of writer's block kicking my butt. So I sat…

How Community Makes Your Creative Dreams Inevitable

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For years after 8th grade ended, I could always cheer myself up with the thought that no matter how bad things were, at least I was no longer in middle school. My tiny middle school contained some classes with less than 10 people in them.…